Welcome to THE BALANCE PROJECT: a series of relevant and refreshingly candid interviews featuring inspiring and accomplished women talking about balance. I’ve always been curious—and maybe a little obsessed—about how women I admire manage the tragically glorified “doing it all” craze. So I asked them. As I suspected, no one really does “it all.” Everyone’s making sacrifices somewhere. And that should make us feel a little better. I hope the conversation will be steered toward that reality rather than toward the flawed and dangerous assumption that we should try—or even want to try—to perfectly do “it all.”
2015 marks the second full year of The Balance Project! And there’s lots in store: First, The Balance Project is celebrating its first birthday. Read all about how it got started and what I’ve learned from it here. Second, my second book, THE BALANCE PROJECT: A NOVEL, will be published in April. It’s women’s fiction and it was inspired by these interviews. More about that here. Third, in preparation for the launch and because these interviews have received such tremendous response, I will publish new interviews two or three times per week, not just on Fridays. Thank you for your continued support!
No. 50: Bobbii Hach-Jacobs, Music Promoter and Festival Producer
Where I live: Parker, CO
Job: Co-Founder of Live In The Vineyard and President of BSG Entertainment—Music Promoter, Festival Producer, Marketing, Consulting and Hospitality Expert
Kids: Two boys: Grady, 7, and Gabriel, 10
Is the job you have now the same one you had before kids? If not, how and why did you change directions?
I have been working in the music business for over 20 years. There was a short time in my early 20s, before kids, when I was contemplating becoming a chef. I was an apprentice chef for two years and just loved it and the creativity behind it, but choosing my path in going the music business route was definitely the right decision. I LOVE music, marketing, and promotion. Connecting the dots. My jobs in the music business since the beginning have given me a lot more freedom than I feel I would have gotten in most instances right out of college. I was lucky enough to work for people who taught me to swim immediately and think on my feet.
If I would have had kids before my career it would have changed the whole scope of the direction that my life was going. I am the type of person who gives 100% of all that I have and then some. My kids would have taken the place of my career if I had had them at the beginning of my career. I would have never been able to really dive in head first, work late all the time, travel, etc. I lived in LA for 17 years, and my husband and I made the decision to move to Colorado when our first son was 1 1/2 years old. That was the best decision that we ever made.
Do you think having “it all” is realistic or overrated and why?
Having “it all” is very open ended. What does that mean? It can mean so many things to so many people. I feel it is very overrated because there is no right or wrong answer. I feel that my family is very blessed with health and a great life with great friends and we have “it all,” but with that requires lots of hard work, communication, and balance with our life.
What part of “balance” can you just not seem to figure out?
Traveling is a tough one. It is hard on all of us. Everytime I travel someone gets sick, something happens, my husband has big meetings with his job, etc. I am great with time management and try to get everything that I need to get done done in rapid speed so that I can get home to the family.
What part of “balance” are you getting better at?
I am getting a lot better at not being so hard on myself. Trying not to feel guilty. Being 100% there for the kids when I am home. Communicating with my husband and my kids and letting them know that even though I travel and might not be there, everything will run smoothly when I am gone.
What was the best advice you ever heard on balance…
From your mother? My mother was an amazing woman!!! She always said to me, “If you come from a place of love and honesty, even if you have to tell someone something that is negative that they don’t want to hear, in the end it will always be ok.”
From your kids? “Mom, you work so hard! I hope someday when I work I will love my job like you do.”
If you had one extra hour in each day and you couldn’t work or be with your family, how would you spend that hour?
Cooking in my kitchen, exploring recipes in all of my cookbooks, and trying something new.
What do you wish you’d known when you were 20?
To let things roll off me.
What do you hope to know by the time you’re 60?
To REALLY savor the moment. To take a step back and be always thankful for what God has blessed me with.
What one part of your home life do you wish you could outsource?
Having a dog walker walk my German shorthaired pointer who needs constant exercise.
Whose job do you wish you had?
Whose job are you glad you don’t have?
Telemarketer. I try to always be polite when they call me, and it is always the worst time.
Anything by Mitch Albom.
What are you reading right now?
Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn.
Activity? Talking on my cell phone with no headphones on.
How many hours do you generally sleep at night during the week?
What do you read every morning?
Email at 5:00 am.
Complete the following sentences:
I think I: need to go to the gym :-).
I wish I: could have my parents meet our children even if it was just for a minute.
My kids: ARE THE MOST AMAZING KIDS EVER!!!!!
Do you have a personal motto or favorite saying?
“It is what it is.”
In 2008 Live in the Vineyard (LITV) was conceived from the passion that Bobbii Hach-Jacobs and Claire Parr share for music, food, and wine. LITV is a private festival that takes place amidst the lush scenery of boutique wineries in California’s legendary Napa Valley twice a year. The festival has grown into a well-known and sought-after ticket available only to sweepstakes winners and special invited guests, that marries peoples’ access to recording artists, top-tier wine makers, and world-renowned chefs during a “once-in-a-lifetime” four-day event. To date, LITV has hosted exquisite food tastings by renowned and celebrated chefs, pourings by some of the most revered vintners, and a series of intimate performances by some of the biggest names in music including Sarah McLachlan, James Blunt, Christina Perri, Fun., New Kids on the Block, Alanis Morissette, Lenny Kravitz, Jason Derulo, Zac Brown Band, Natasha Bedingfield, Colbie Caillat, David Gray, Goo Goo Dolls, Richard Marx, Hunter Hayes, Fitz And The Tantrums, and Jason Mraz, among others. Bobbii is married to her wonderful husband, Steve. They have two boys, Gabriel and Grady, and three adorable dogs and reside in Parker, Colorado. Bobbii loves to cook and as an avid fan of all things sports, she can be found on the nearest golf course in her spare time. Read Bobbii’s complete bio here.
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THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 3: Emily Liebert, Author
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 4: Lyss Stern, Mom-trepreneur
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 5: Lauren Slayton, Nutritionist
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 6: Elizabeth Moyer, Blogger
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 7: Annabel Monaghan, Author
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 8: Holly Gordon, Director
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 9: Jill Salzman, Entrepreneur
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 10: Jennifer Levinson, Jen’s List
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 11: Jenny Hutt, Media Personality
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 12: Angela Santomero, Kids’ Media Creator
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 13: Carola Donato, Yogi
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 14: Tiffany Washington, Pastry Designer
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 15: Emily Giffin, Author
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 16: Alana Sanko, Writer
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 17: Cara Lemieux, Journalist
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 18: Liz Fenton & Lisa Steinke, Authors
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 19: Nikki Mark, Author & Foundation Director
Shonda Rhimes on Doing It All
Indra Nooyi on Balance
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 21: Jill Bryan, Comedian
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 22: Cindy Callaghan, Author
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 23: Stephanie Hirsch, Artist
My Times of India Interview on Work-Life Balance
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 24: Whitney Dineen, Author/Baker
AmEx’s Sobbott on Balance
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 25: J0-Laine Duke-Collins, Dessert Stylist
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 26: Whitney English, Entrepreneur
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 27: Jennifer Gooch Hummer, Author
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 28: Melissa Amster, Book Blogger
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 29: Nigel Marsh, Author and Entrepreneur
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 30: DayNa Decker, Entrepreneur
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 31: Amy Selling, Blogger
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 32: Heather Sonnenberg, Entrepreneur
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 33: Allison Winn Scotch, Author
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 34: Bibi Kasrai, Entrepreneur and Chef
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 35: Karen Sutton MD, Orthopaedic Surgeon
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 36: Samantha Ettus, Balance Expert, Author, TV/Radio Personality
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 37: Pam Yudko, Holistic Health and Transformational Coach
THE BALANCE PROJECT| No. 38: Nancy Huang, Nonprofit Outreach Director
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 39: Mary Laura Philpott, Writer, Editor and Illustrator
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 40: Towanda Long, Marketing Communications Specialist
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 41: Kristyn Kusek Lewis, Writer
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 42: Tracy Pollan, Actor and Writer
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 43: Christianne Phillips, Fitness Consultant and Writer
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 44: Susannah Lewis, Writer
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 45: Kimi Culp, Producer, Author and Creative Consultant
THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 46: Traci Bild, Entrepreneur
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THE BALANCE PROJECT | No. 49: Cozy Friedman, Kids’ Hair Expert